Have you ever criticised your self for making a mistake? Or thought negatively about yourself in anyway? Most of us have experienced this at some point and if we sit and reflect, you probably engage in it far more than you realise.

Well, it’s time to show some self-compassion, research shows that people who are more self-compassionate lead healthier, more productive lives than those who are self-critical.

Dr. Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor in Human Development and Culture at the University of Texas at Austin and has conducted research to support the many benefits of self-compassion. Here are a few reasons why you need to start treating yourself better:

  1. You’ll be happier.

Just like when we help others, when we soothe our own pain and care for ourselves, our body releases oxytocin, which is our natural feel good drug. FYI oxytocin is also known as the hug hormone, cuddle chemical and moral molecule!

  1. You’ll be motivated

You need to see your faults, accept them and then have a go at altering them, it will allow you to move on and become so much better at dealing with bumps in the road, they are inevitable.

  1. Remove stress

Dr Neff’s research highlights that people who practice self-compassion are less anxious and stressed.

  1. It’s good for your health

Self-criticism can trigger the fight or flight response in the body via adrenaline and increased blood pressure. By switching to self-compassion, you will be doing your heart a favour.

  1. You can heal your pain.

It’s a paradox but the more you accept your faults as part of being a human, the faster you can heal and bounce back. Beating yourself up just makes the pain last longer and doesn’t change anything.

Be good to yourself.

Further insights can be found here:


MySize_15 Jan